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With Christmas over and most of the hustle and bustle of this busy holiday season almost over, it’s time to think about the coming New Year and what it might bring.  For some of my family, 2013 has been a very tough year, wrought with financial hardships, illness, emotional distress, and several other calamities too numerous to mention.  But, that being said, God has continued to be awesome, magnificent, and fully capable of meeting every need as we allow Him the right to take our messes and work His “magic” in our lives.

Assuming my family is not the only one who has felt some of the unsettling offerings that the world has available for us, I know there are plenty of you out there who have also gone through hard times, but have positive things to share about how the Lord has circumvented the enemy’s plans for your demise and blessed your socks off!

Although it might take a little digging into your memories of this past year, I know you’ll come across some blessings you may wish to share.  Please feel free to do so as we’d all really enjoy hearing the wonderful things God has done in your lives during 2013.  The more we share His story and miracles, the more confidence rises in our souls and spirits.  I don’t know about you, but I, for one, need more confidence, trust and faith in God, and encouragement to continue when the battles of life get hot and heavy.  We’re in this life together and need each other.

So, with that said, What’s in store for us, for you, for me during the coming year?  Well, that is a good question.  But, as Christians, we know Who holds our future, as well as our nasty, ugly pasts and our presents, and He, the Lord Jesus Christ, is able to keep us in His incredibly strong and mighty hands, to protect our eternity with Him, no matter what comes our way.

You can indeed have confidence in Jesus to continue what He’s doing, complete what He started so many, many years ago, and carry you through to a victorious end.  Don’t give up, keep on truckin’, we’re not “done” yet.  The way may seem dark, but it really isn’t when Jesus is your Light at the end of the tunnel.

Granted we have a ways to go yet before we get There so, as some might say, “pull up your big boy and girl panties”, set your sights toward Heaven, but don’t forget to bring as many with you as you possibly can.  When we reach our reward someday, we’re gonna have a HUGE party with all the angels of Heaven and the King of Kings and Lord of Lords sharing dinner with us.  Wow!  So don’t lose heart and grow weary.  The best is yet to come!

Bring it on 2014!!!

I Got Nothin’…

It’s been awhile since I’ve had the time to sit at my computer and write.  Too busy heading to work on the bus, working, returning from work on the bus, plopping into my comfy chair 12+ hours later when I finally arrive home, and eventually going to get a bite to eat in the kitchen before returning to said chair for the rest of the evening!

Weekends have been a little less torturous but I have spent some time monitoring the movements of the remodelers when they actually do show up for a few hours work, and purchasing various and sundry items for my newly updated bathrooms and kitchen.

All this to say I’m sorry I haven’t been as prolific in the writing department as I would like to be but sometimes, well, let’s just say… I got nothin’!

Now, that’s not to imply I am totally empty and devoid of things to say, it’s just that I haven’t felt that the Lord has had anything lately to say to you through me.  There is a difference, you know.  Some folks just write just to be writing.  And that’s ok but I usually prefer to write when I sense the Lord wants to say something.  In the beginning, it might start out with me just writing just to write, but somehow it turns into something amazing!  Definitely not because I’m writing it, but because He’s giving me a new twist on what I start out with and He’s amazing!  Many times I’ll go back weeks later and read a post and think, “Wow, that’s really cool…did I write that?”  Obviously, I had some Heavenly help..

Ok, so with two blogs going now, Ivegotconfidence,  Have Confidence In God and IvegotconfidenceTwo, Growing Up In God, my brain is starting to melt.  I’m considering just going with the second blog as I love how it looks, but the first one is my “baby”.  So far, the last three posts on the first blog are the first three on the second, just so I could see how they both looked and to see if there would be any traffic on the second at all.  I would love your opinions and comments, if you would like to participate, and let me know what you all think.

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Obviously, if I get no response, I’ll know that nobody is listening, reading, or even out there even though the stats indicate folks are at least looking at some of the pictures.  So, I’d love your help to decide.  Should I continue with both, or switch to the ITGUIG, or stay with IHCIG..eeny, meeny, miney, moe!

Well, that’s my silly decision making dilemma for the day, but I know many of you have many more very serious decisions to make daily, and you don’t have many, many readers to help you decide what to do.  I’ve been there too, several times, and I know it’s not a fun place to be.  It’s scary, often terrifying, especially if the decisions you must make are life or death, or life changing, such as moving, going through a divorce or separation, adoption, and so on.

There is Someone Who is always there to help you through any decision-making you might have to make, and that Someone is Jesus, God’s precious Son.  If you don’t have a clue Who He is or haven’t met Him yet, I’d love to share Him with you.  A relationship with Jesus will demand all you are and all you have but the benefits are Eternal and abundant.  When you give your all to Him, He gives you His all–you have access to everything He is–Healer, Redeemer, Savior, Provider, Comforter, Peace, Love, Joy, Mercy, the giver of unmerited or undeserved favor and grace.  He is Wisdom, Understanding, and gives us Knowledge beyond our human capabilities.

So, you wonder how He can help you out of your situation?  Yeah, I have wondered that myself on several occasions.  But, because I accepted Jesus into my heart several years ago, confidence in Him has grown so that even if I don’t understand, I can trust that He has my best interest at heart and will do just what will be the most beneficial for me at any given time.  I know He’ll do the same for you too.

But, you gotta ask!  He won’t force you and He usually doesn’t intervene without permission.  The decision is yours…what will you do with Him?

(Check out the page “Where Does Confidence In God Come From?” on Ivegotconfidence, Have Confidence in God for more assistance.)

One of millions of tapestries created throughout the millenia–beautiful!

Have you ever desperately prayed for or wanted something for a long time, or just wished that somehow things would change in your life for the better? But the answer seemed to take forever to come, or didn’t come at all or not in the way you expected? Well, I’m guessing that you’re right there with me on this one. Why is it that there seems to be such a delay? Where are you God? What is Your problem???? It’s a simple request. Surely, since you supposedly can move Heaven and Earth for other people, you can do the same for me! All I want is _________________!!!! Why is it so hard to give me what I want and am asking You for? Am I not good enough or smart enough to handle it?

From our perspective, our request just seems so logical and easy a task for God to perform…He is all powerful, all knowing, everywhere at once, isn’t He? So??? What’s the hang up?

Well, from past experience I can surmise that we are the hang up.

One of the main reasons I have such confidence in God is because He doesn’t bow to my demands in prayer, which often come out of pure childishness (the stomp-my-feet-if-I-don’t-get-what-I-want kind of childishness). He doesn’t answer when I’m in panic mode out of fear, He doesn’t even answer when I’m ever so sure I need whatever I’m asking for, or that it would be really cool if He worked out the scenario the way I think it should be handled. He answers only after He takes the entire context of the situation into account and the answer will benefit everyone involved. He answers when everthing we try in the natural fails, to show us that He knows more and better than we do and that He’s in control here..not us. He answers in the fulness of time, just as He brought Jesus to earth as a baby. When the time in right….on His time table, not ours. And, He answers, usually, in a manner that we didn’t even consider, but makes so much sense when we take the time to look back on it.

Because He is all knowing, all wise, everywhere at once, and all powerful, He knows more than we do and sees the end from the beginning. It’s sort of like us looking up from underneath a loom in a rug maker’s shop at a tapestry in progress: a myriad of different colored strings and messy stitches, irregular, no pattern at all. But, from His perspective, from the top, He sees a gorgeous rug that is sheer perfection, beautiful, useful, a treasure to behold, and everything is in its’ place.

Like the underside of that tapestry, our world is a big jumble of lives that seem out of control and meaningless, rushing here and there, frantic for the meaning of life but looking in all the wrong places. But, for those of us who know Jesus as Savior and Lord, and for those who would like to know Him, we can be confident that God has everything under control. He has given His Word to us which encompasses His will for all mankind, the Bible, to lead and guide us through the chaos in which we live. He’s given us many thousands of promises on which to anchor our souls.

If you have been disappointed with your life, or with the answers to prayer that didn’t happen like you thought they should, don’t abandon your confidence in God. He has something better and more fulfilling for you, and if you’ll stay the course, you will receive that bigger and better sooner than you think. He loves you more than you will ever know, at least on this earth, and wants you to have the very best, in abundance. He is not interested in letting you settle for second best, especially when, if you will remain true and faithful to Him and obedient to His Word, the best is just around the corner!

Don’t give up, don’t give in, don’t look back as if back there was better. God’s on the move and He wants you to go with Him, but you must trust that He is able to take care of everything that concerns you. You may not get everything you want when you want it, but He promised you will never lack for anything.

1John 5:14, 15 in the Amplified Version of the Bible says:

And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which we have in Him: [we are sure] that if we ask anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with His own plan), He listens to {and} hears us.  and if (since) we [positively] know that He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as our present possessions] the requests made of Him.

Have confidence in God!

Watch the Clouds!Clouds.  For some reason, clouds are amazing to me.  I don’t really know how they are made or why we need them, or what they do, other than dump rain on us when they are full of moisture.  I suppose that is a subject for a scientist, or someone who specializes in cloud formations, etc.  But for me, I just like ‘em.

I used to daydream about living near a hill with a single huge oak tree on top.  On a sunny, warm spring day, I would hike to the top of the hill (which of course had no bugs, weeds, or rocks to stumble over—just soft, lush green grass) and lie beneath that beautiful tree just watching the clouds float by.  I could imagine fluffy ones in the shapes of rabbits, dogs, lions, hearts, and other such fanciful things.  I could imagine stories revolving around each of the images I saw created by the clouds and as the wind blew them away, the images and the stories would evolve into ever more creative tales.

Although I don’t remember a single story that I made up about the cloud images off hand, I do remember thinking that the hill top and that tree and the clouds were my “happy place”.  I was at peace, in a very tranquil, warm and inviting location created just for me, and whoever I might like to bring along.  I rarely ever did imagine taking anyone with me though, for every time I went there it was “me” time; time for me to sit and think and meditate and enjoy God’s creation.

Often wishing I could go there for real, I still imagine that maybe God has such a place in Heaven that He is preparing for me to be at peace from the world I will eventually leave behind.  All the cares, sorrows and grief we often endure here, will be no more.  No more tears, no crying, no pain, no sorrow.  That really sounds great, doesn’t it?

Now, here’s the big “But”.  Unfortunately, we have no knowledge of when we will be leaving this world.  So, in the meantime, God has a plan to give us the peace we all long for.  That plan, unusual as it seems, was to send His Son, Jesus, to earth to take our sin and its’ punishment, and provision for

Above the clouds

our healing and restoration, on Himself so that we could enjoy His Eternal Peace in this life, even before we get to our Heavenly Homes!  Even though I would love to spend time underneath that big oak tree watching the clouds go by, I can enjoy His peace right in the middle of the chaos that is my world.

The most important thing to remember, though, is that we must receive Jesus into our hearts and lives and believe that His sacrifice is a finished work on our behalf.  And, then share our faith with others to “seal the deal”.

When the time is right and God has determined “enough is enough”, Jesus will return to this earth with “a loud cry of summons” and other tremendous fanfare, initiating a catching away of all of us, living and dead in Christ, to meet Him in the clouds, to be with Him forever.  (1 Thessalonians 4:16-18)  So, I guess it’s not so bad to watch the clouds after all!  One day, we’ll go through them to meet our Savior!

Be encouraged and take comfort in this.  Have confidence in God!


Samson–8/2000 to 5/2012

There are times in life when we have to do things or put up with things that we really would rather not.  Things that leave us emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually drained, but then God comes through in a most unusual way to give us a glimmer of hope, confidence if you will, that He is truly in control and knows what we need, when we need it, and will provide in ways that we can’t even begin to fathom.  The following story is a very small, yet big, indication of how much He loves us and watches over even the little things that affect our lives.

Recently my family’s dog (truth-be-told my daughter’s dog), Samson, suddenly became ill and seemed to labor to breath. He was living with me for a short time now due to some upheaval in her life and as temporary  “caretaker”,  I became increasingly concerned as this had never happened to one of my pets before. He was not eating well but still seemed somewhat interested in treats. It was as if he had a cold & was all stuffed up.  Our other dog, yes, my son’s dog, (I somehow seem to be the repository for everyone’s pets) Sugar Bear, didn’t seem to take too much notice at the time and seemed annoyed that he had to share all the treats, consummate mooch that he is. But as symptoms got increasingly worse, we had no other choice but to bite the bullet and reach out to a neighborhood veterinarian for assistance. On Mother’s Day 2012, of all days, when my daughter had come over just to have lunch and a special day with me, we sat in the room and heard the verdict …lymphoma cancer.  We both turned and looked at each other, tears welling up. We never expected this! Not even close to the diagnosis I’d hoped for.

The doctor was very nice, quiet and calm, as she could probably see how much we’d been caught off guard. She explained all the possible options, none of which seemed to be worth the bother or expense or torment for our much loved family member. She then left the room and sent in the vet tech to give us a list of all the expenses involved; a nice young man but he seemed a little timid and afraid of what emotions might be forthcoming should he say too much or with the wrong tone of voice. I’m sure he was just trying to be understanding and compassionate, and I appreciated his attempts at delivering a hard message with as much gentleness as he could possibly muster.

We decided on a course of action, let Sam go with the vet tech to get the various cell samples, a shot of prednisone (doggy version), and paid our fees (which only could have come from God–the money was there when there had been no money a short time before) only to have to wait a few days for confirmation from the lab before taking any further steps: an expensive but wise choice I felt at the time. Then we would know for sure. The confirmation, as if we really needed it, came within the next day or two.


Each day after that brought a rapid decline in Sam’s health, which I watched with increasing sadness.  (To this day viewing shows or movies such as Dumbo or the Lassie TV series, for example, just put me emotionally over the edge. Can’t watch ‘em.)  But I knew that after my daughter’s agonizingly difficult decision to put him down, his suffering would soon be over. Still, remembering what a great dog he was and all the good times we’d had with him was very difficult for me.

The night before the vet appointment was especially hard, watching him collapse on the kitchen floor by the back door.  He struggled to get to the bowl of water, but did drink.  That was encouraging.  Being late at night, I left him by the door, but slept with one eye open almost to make sure he would get help if he needed it.

Morning came, too soon for me, but during the night he must have rallied a little because he was sleeping by the front door this time.  He got up and walked slowly to the kitchen where I was and drank some water and went outside to take care of his “toiletries”.  Back to the water bowl and then relax  outside in the sun.  I had had a brief moment with him to say goodbye and let him know that my daughter would be there soon to get him.  It would all be over very soon and he wouldn’t have to suffer any longer.  I think he knew what I was saying because when she did come an hour later, he was standing at the door waiting.

Sugar Bear

Meanwhile, Sugar Bear came outside and laid down much closer to him than normal and stayed there till it was time for Sam to go.  He called out to him several times as my daughter readied him with his leash and cried after them when they left as if to say, “Thanks for all the good times Sam.  Stay strong Friend, I will miss you!”  Now, I can’t verify what he actually was saying of course, but they have been together for many, many years off and on and have been good friends, together fending off  all comers to the alley behind my house or verbally warning all the strangers who dared cross the borders of our home.  I know he misses him because he was always so happy to see him on the rare occasions he’d come to visit in the last five years after my daughter and family all moved out into their own home.   Of one thing I am sure, however.  Instinctively, Sugar Bear knew Sam was in trouble and wouldn’t be around very long.  He chose to stay close by when it counted and let Sam know he cared and was there for him.

Sam is gone now and his memory will linger for many years to come.  But, what comforts me most is knowing that we have the opportunity to know, personally, the God who created such very special and unique animals, who gave them instincts and understanding beyond our natural realm.  No, these two dogs are by no means more special than any others, and this same scenario has probably played out many, many times over many generations of dogs, or cats, or horses, or any number of other creatures on this planet we call Earth.

But, the cool thing is that God created them as intricately and uniquely as he did us, and then He allows us to view glimpses of His love for human beings by letting us in on how animals care for each other, even in small ways.  We are fearfully and wonderfully made, my friends.  He loves us, He cares for us, and we can have confidence that He will help us deal with every situation that we encounter, no matter how difficult it may seem.  He is able to bring something good out of something really bad, especially when it looks impossible that anything could change.

Have confidence in God today and ask Him to bring you beauty for the ashes of your life!

Welcome to the next installment of IVEGOTCONFIDENCE!

So, how are things in your neck of the woods?  Although you may not yet be experiencing the life you have always wanted to experience, trust that God is with you, working behind the scenes to bring His perfect will to pass in your life.

Doesn’t that just sound so “yada, yada, yada”???  Whatever!!!!!  Hey, I’m dyin’ here Lord…where are you??  What the heck (or, as some would say, *#$&!@#) is going on?  What are You doing to me?  I don’t see any extra cash, a job, or healing in my body, or relationships getting any better.  In fact, they’re getting worse and if You’re out there somewhere, You’d better do something fast or things are really gonna blow up!

Have you ever felt like that?  I know I sure have but never phrased my responses to God quite like I was feeling them inside.  Guess I was afraid I’d get knocked to the ground with a bolt of lightning, or so I used to think.  But nevertheless, I’ve had many situations that have yielded this sort of inner response in me.

One of my first real “tests” came when my marriage fell apart many years ago.  Without going into all the gory details, suffice it to say it was extremely traumatic for me as a very sheltered young woman with two kids to help raise.  I never in my wildest dreams thought such a thing would ever happen to me.  Me????…Mrs. Goody-two-shoes-who-never-did-anything-wrong-in-her-life?????  Oh, the horror of it all!!  What had I done to deserve such treatment and emotional abuse and trauma.

Then, God said in the inner most part of my heart.  “Will you still trust Me if you go through a divorce?”  Uhhhhhh……well…….., does that mean I’m going to have to go through a divorce and you’ll bring us back together after that?  Or……, is it that you just want to know if I’ll trust You and then You’ll fix everything so there won’t be one after all! 🙂  Or……., that there will be a divorce and I’ll just have to trust You no matter what happens on the other side because You’re not going to bring us back together?  Hmmmm…Yes, Lord,…..I will trust You.

Like the disciples in answer to Your question, “Are you going to leave too?” when you were done teaching a strong word and everyone else left but them, “Where else can I go?”  You are my strength, courage, forgiveness, mercy, love, protection, provision and all the other wonderful things that you provide?  You are the Prince of Peace and I need massive amounts of that right about now.  Yes, Lord, I will trust you, no matter what.

It was during this time of turmoil in my family and my life that God gave me a lesson in confidence.  Yes, although it was very difficult for everyone involved, we did indeed divorce, for good.  It’s been 30 plus years ago now and neither of us have remarried to this day.  We have gone our separate ways, remaining good friends as we were when we started out all those many years ago.  We still get together for holiday meals with family, grandkids’ birthdays and the like, but prefer to remain just friends.  Because of all that God has done in us, we both have a deeply ingrained sense of caring for one another and heartfelt desire for each other’s happiness and fulfillment.  We recognize this attitude had to come from God alone, but also acknowledge that we have grown and matured in different ways, making it undesirable to attempt to rekindle something that would not stand the test of time.Don't give up!

God gave me the following Scripture somewhere during this upheaval and I will always cherish the fact that I can indeed have confidence in Him that He will bring to pass His will in my life if I will just trust Him as a loving Father and not throw away my confidence and give up.

 “Do not therefore, fling away your fearless confidence, for it carries a great and glorious compensation of reward.  For you have need of steadfast patience and endurance, so that you may perform and fully accomplish the will of God, and thus receive and carry away [and enjoy to the full] what is promised.”  Hebrews 10:35, 36 Amplified Version

I hope this encourages you as it has me, to remember and share how God brought me through a very tough time.  And, as I said in the beginning, it may not feel like anything is happening in your life right now and there may seem to be no hope of things turning around for you, but if you will hold on to your confidence in God, He will surely bring you through triumphantly.  I promise you the changes in your circumstances will not come in a way that you expect, but you will be able to see His wisdom and good work in your life, if you remain confident in Him and in His Word.

Until next time!

I Feel Used

Hello again!

How about let’s go in a different direction today?  How many of you have ever felt like nobody cares about you or what you think or what you feel or what you say?  Perhaps you feel you have poured out your life’s blood for your family and friends and they not only don’t seem to appreciate what you have done, but make you feel like your efforts don’t even matter.  Have you ever been in that frame of mind?

Please pay attention to me!

Please pay attention to me!

I have.  Not often, and I’ve learned not to let my mind wallow in that mindset for very long, but I have to admit I have stepped momentarily, from time to time, into that very deceptive mud puddle.  And when you find yourself thinking these ugly thoughts, isn’t it easy to try to manipulate your circumstances to force people to pay attention to you?

For example, slamming doors or cabinets is a good attention getter!  Or, another very popular technique is to give “them” (insensitive clods) the silent treatment–that’ll teach ‘em!   Or, maybe you choose to stand in the middle of the room screaming at the top of your lungs while throwing plates and frying pans at them, (or the walls or floor if they aren’t around)!  Of course, these examples are a little extreme, but probably effective for a brief moment to make you feel better until reality sets in and it dawns on you that you now have a floor full of broken plates to clean up and nothing to eat on or cook with!!  (Worse yet, if you hit them–the insensitive clod–and then had to rush them to the hospital with a concussion??!!!!  Wow!  And then, there’s the police thing, ..Bummer!)

However, I believe the real issue here hinges on our expectations.  We expect others to treat us in a certain way, to understand us, to recognize our value and treat us accordingly.  When they don’t, it’s like…”Hey, what’s wrong with you?  Can’t you see how much I do for you, how much you need me in your life, how valuable my wisdom is and how important I am?” As many times as I tried to get others to take a second look at what I had to say, the efforts I made just fell on deaf ears.  People aren’t paying attention, aren’t sensitive to us, and frankly, don’t really care a whole lot.  Such is the lot of being human, living in an imperfect body, in a sinful and corrupt world.  It really stinks..or sucks, if you prefer.

It’s at times like these that you might find it helpful to recognize Jesus as the only One who really loves, cares, and values you.  He actually was sent to Earth to show us Daddy God’s individual and very personal love for you.  And because He was, you can trust Him with your expectations.  And, you can ask Him to show you how to forgive those who hurt and offend.  Then, let Him heal your wounded heart.

Sadly we can’t change others’ perceptions or what they think of us, though God knows I’ve tried any number of times!!!  But we can pray for them and ask God to work in us so that WE will not be that same type of person to someone else.

So, don’t give up or worse yet, give in to bitterness and resentment.  Rise above it and remember to be confident in God.  He’ll take all the hurt and injustice and turn it around for your good.

“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: “   Philippians 1:6 King James Version

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