Hello again!

How about let’s go in a different direction today?  How many of you have ever felt like nobody cares about you or what you think or what you feel or what you say?  Perhaps you feel you have poured out your life’s blood for your family and friends and they not only don’t seem to appreciate what you have done, but make you feel like your efforts don’t even matter.  Have you ever been in that frame of mind?

Please pay attention to me!

Please pay attention to me!

I have.  Not often, and I’ve learned not to let my mind wallow in that mindset for very long, but I have to admit I have stepped momentarily, from time to time, into that very deceptive mud puddle.  And when you find yourself thinking these ugly thoughts, isn’t it easy to try to manipulate your circumstances to force people to pay attention to you?

For example, slamming doors or cabinets is a good attention getter!  Or, another very popular technique is to give “them” (insensitive clods) the silent treatment–that’ll teach ‘em!   Or, maybe you choose to stand in the middle of the room screaming at the top of your lungs while throwing plates and frying pans at them, (or the walls or floor if they aren’t around)!  Of course, these examples are a little extreme, but probably effective for a brief moment to make you feel better until reality sets in and it dawns on you that you now have a floor full of broken plates to clean up and nothing to eat on or cook with!!  (Worse yet, if you hit them–the insensitive clod–and then had to rush them to the hospital with a concussion??!!!!  Wow!  And then, there’s the police thing, ..Bummer!)

However, I believe the real issue here hinges on our expectations.  We expect others to treat us in a certain way, to understand us, to recognize our value and treat us accordingly.  When they don’t, it’s like…”Hey, what’s wrong with you?  Can’t you see how much I do for you, how much you need me in your life, how valuable my wisdom is and how important I am?” As many times as I tried to get others to take a second look at what I had to say, the efforts I made just fell on deaf ears.  People aren’t paying attention, aren’t sensitive to us, and frankly, don’t really care a whole lot.  Such is the lot of being human, living in an imperfect body, in a sinful and corrupt world.  It really stinks..or sucks, if you prefer.

It’s at times like these that you might find it helpful to recognize Jesus as the only One who really loves, cares, and values you.  He actually was sent to Earth to show us Daddy God’s individual and very personal love for you.  And because He was, you can trust Him with your expectations.  And, you can ask Him to show you how to forgive those who hurt and offend.  Then, let Him heal your wounded heart.

Sadly we can’t change others’ perceptions or what they think of us, though God knows I’ve tried any number of times!!!  But we can pray for them and ask God to work in us so that WE will not be that same type of person to someone else.

So, don’t give up or worse yet, give in to bitterness and resentment.  Rise above it and remember to be confident in God.  He’ll take all the hurt and injustice and turn it around for your good.

“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: “   Philippians 1:6 King James Version